what I really think about the 'Keke' situation.

hey keke do you love me? does what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas?

It’s been a long few weeks of social media relationship drama. The internet is in an uproar over partners 'policing' each other's behavior. Ironically, what happened in Vegas didn't stay there. Keke Palmer, actor, celebrity (let's not forget mother), jumped on stage in a highly provocative jumpsuit and let Usher serenade her in front of his audience of thousands. The incident would not typically be news until the father of Keke’s child (I won't say "Bf" because I don’t know their current status) quote-tweeted "you’re a mother." Someone should have stopped his thumb from pressing the "send" button. You don't need a science degree to predict the outcome of that statement. The tweet divided the internet like staff at the Red Sea.

It started with the social media feminists: "You can't tell her how to dress; men should stop policing women."

"A man can't have standards anymore?" The red pill gang shot back.

"They ain't married. What are you talking about?"

"Baby fathers are always jealous."

“It’s because she makes all the money.'“

My group chat is where I found out about the incident.

"What would you do if that was your girl?" was the first message to instigate the debate, and others followed.

"With Usher?"

"Nah, with any guy."

"Damn, you guys saw the cheeks."

My wife argued that until he makes her his wife, he can't complain. On the other hand, my old-school ass thinks that you should treat every relationship with the respect of a marriage. Men vs. Women. Husbands vs. Wives. Ultimately, I'm stuck on one side of the fence. My wife went to vegas to see Usher, but if I saw her ass-cheeks swooning into his arms, all composure would be lost. I believe a man should have expected standards of his woman, but vice versa, a woman should have expected standards of her man. Let’s be real, couples should have standards for each other. Yet, you can't marry a runway model, celebrity, or actor and then be surprised when they do actor, model, or celebrity shit. Same way, you can't marry a boxer and expect him not to come home with the occasional black eye or injury.

I'm not the one to tell people how to handle their relationship issues, but calling a partner out on a public platform is pretty petty. You don't even do that in front of family and friends, let alone the whole of Beyoncé's internet. The man might have a point (depending on their relationship), but not on the internet. Once you make things public, you open the internet floodgates and socials specializes in one-sided stories.

Despite what left wing vs right wing Twitter say, the real conversation here is about standards and accountability. Put your hand up if there is a scenario where Keke is accountable? Let me give you a hypothetical: Keke and her partner disagreed on her attire before she left the house, and in a jealous (not entirely rational) rage, he lashed out publicly. We all get jealous, we all make mistakes. You don't walk into a relationship with an instruction manual; it's trial and error. Relationships are not about getting it right, but how you conduct yourself when you are wrong carries more weight than the initial error. Ultimately, despite the breach of trust or standards, how a couple resolves a situation (in private) is the most important indicator of the strength of a relationship.

You don't call out your partner in public, even if you feel disrespected, because (as we have seen) it blows open the door for people with no context to step into your relationship. It not only invites unnecessary scrutiny and judgment, but also undermines the foundation of trust and privacy that a relationships needs to thrive. The entire situation is pretty ridiculous, one quote tweet doesn’t make you an abuser, and one night in Vegas with Usher doesn’t automatically make you Delilah, we need to stop using minor issues to magnify major ones. In conclusion, the recent social media relationship drama surrounding Keke Palmer and her partner highlights the ongoing debate about standards, accountability, and the perils of airing personal issues in the public sphere.

Would love to hear your thoughts on this issue?